This guy's so shy he's never kissed a girl

[Smurf1976]

At the end of the day I could go and buy a new car right now if I wanted to. Just as I could buy new furniture, fancy clothes and all sorts of other things, sex included.

But I've never seen an example of money buying true love or even true happiness. Never. And that's even assuming it's your own money - borrowed money being even more likely to bring misery.

The older I get, the more I understand why I want a partner not a model. And why I like a normal house that I own, rather than a mansion built upon debt. And so on. Material posessions, other than those with actual utility, do little to improve happiness and wellbeing in the long run.

 

[Solly]

hmm... considering the fact that those construction workers ran away cowering in fear.. she must be pretty damn ugly

you maybe correct, it's the looks....that crazed wide eye demonic Linda Blair look, protruding eye teeth, laboured breathing and head like Rodney Dangerfield.

Not an uncommon look at "The Wharf" on a Friday night.

 

[nunthewiser]

I kissed a girl and i liked it

 

[jono1887]

So Jono I make the assumption that you expect to marry a virgin.

What happens if you fall in love with a woman who is not a virgin? Love certainly comes along at some weird times and in some weird places. Would you forsake your potential soul mate for the fact she is not a virgin?

Well this is an incorrect assumption. I have no expressed anywhere in this forum that I expect to marry a virgin. I just expressed my personal opinions on sex before marriage. Although I would like to marry someone who is a virgin, I am not naive either... I'll just wait and see what the future will bring... :

and I don't believe in a single soul mate concept. It is quite fundamentally wrong on so many levels. If this was true... all it would take was for one person in the world to marry someone who is not their 'soul mate'. This process would result in 2 people in the world now no longer having access to their intended 'soul mates'. Now either these people dont marry anyone, but if they did, this would result in another 2 people loosing their soul mates. Hence, this process would continue from the single event of the first person not finding their intended 'soul mate' and thus creating a chain reaction preventing everyone else from finding their 'soul mates'. :

 

[adobee]

Mate for a 29 year old, you are incredibly shallow... there are more things to life other having a nice car and girls.

No doubt ... fishing rocks too ..!!

 

[ck13488]

The older I get, the more I understand why I want a partner not a model. And why I like a normal house that I own, rather than a mansion built upon debt. And so on. Material posessions, other than those with actual utility, do little to improve happiness and wellbeing in the long run.

although im young (21) i never had a girlfriend for the sake of having one. always wanted a girl i actually enjoyed being with, wasnt keen on the constant bickering like my mates deal/put up with. been together over 6 months and not one fight, always out having fun and enjoying life. id much rather someone i can get out and have fun with than someone who wont go outside the house without hair being straightened and makeup done!!

 

[jono1887]

although im young (21) i never had a girlfriend for the sake of having one. always wanted a girl i actually enjoyed being with, wasnt keen on the constant bickering like my mates deal/put up with. been together over 6 months and not one fight, always out having fun and enjoying life. id much rather someone i can get out and have fun with than someone who wont go outside the house without hair being straightened and makeup done!!

you have to realise that a relationship that you go through without any fights is probably unrealistic in the long run. Although, your latter point on finding a girl thats willing to leave the house without makeup is also an important point..

 

[Mr J]

Fights can be part of a healthy relationship, and a lack of them might be a problem. That said, there's not much to fight about when you're 21 and 6 months in, especially if you don't live together.

 

[adobee]

although im young (21) i never had a girlfriend for the sake of having one. always wanted a girl i actually enjoyed being with, wasnt keen on the constant bickering like my mates deal/put up with. been together over 6 months and not one fight, always out having fun and enjoying life. id much rather someone i can get out and have fun with than someone who wont go outside the house without hair being straightened and makeup done!!

6 months is still honeymoon faze....
fights arent the best but you do want a girl with an opinion no matter what ..
tell her you are going on a bucks to vegas and see how she reacts ...
doesnt matter at 21 plenty of fish in the sea...

 

[Solly]

although im young (21) i never had a girlfriend for the sake of having one. always wanted a girl i actually enjoyed being with, wasnt keen on the constant bickering like my mates deal/put up with. been together over 6 months and not one fight, always out having fun and enjoying life. id much rather someone i can get out and have fun with than someone who wont go outside the house without hair being straightened and makeup done!!

you have to realise that a relationship that you go through without any fights is probably unrealistic in the long run. Although, your latter point on finding a girl thats willing to leave the house without makeup is also an important point..

A crusty hard old four striper, once took me aside when I was around your age, he taught me many things and imparted many words of wisdom.
One old truism I remember is;
"When Money Goes Out the Door, Love Flies Out the Window."

 

[ck13488]

you have to realise that a relationship that you go through without any fights is probably unrealistic in the long run. Although, your latter point on finding a girl thats willing to leave the house without makeup is also an important point..

Fights can be part of a healthy relationship, and a lack of them might be a problem. That said, there's not much to fight about when you're 21 and 6 months in, especially if you don't live together.

6 months is still honeymoon faze....
fights arent the best but you do want a girl with an opinion no matter what ..
tell her you are going on a bucks to vegas and see how she reacts ...
doesnt matter at 21 plenty of fish in the sea...

i didnt mean to say that i expect us to never fight...its just that many of my friends who are 'attached' always seem to be bickering/fighting among themselves. even worse that it is over trivial little things

 

[white_goodman]

although im young (21) i never had a girlfriend for the sake of having one. always wanted a girl i actually enjoyed being with, wasnt keen on the constant bickering like my mates deal/put up with. been together over 6 months and not one fight, always out having fun and enjoying life. id much rather someone i can get out and have fun with than someone who wont go outside the house without hair being straightened and makeup done!!

mate theres only one reason to have a gf at our age...
plus most of the ones I know you wouldnt bring home to the rents, something regarding cows and getting milk for free

 

[Naked shorts]

I kissed a girl and i liked it

Did you taste her cherry chapstick?

 

[drsmith]

Well this is an incorrect assumption. I have no expressed anywhere in this forum that I expect to marry a virgin. I just expressed my personal opinions on sex before marriage. Although I would like to marry someone who is a virgin, I am not naive either... I'll just wait and see what the future will bring... :

No direct reference that you would only marry a virgin but you have compared sex before marriage to theft.

In relation to your personal beliefs, which of the following do you consider represents the greatest moral difference,

1) sex between partners in a married relationship and sex between partners in an unmarried relationship or,
2) sex between partners in an unmarried relationship and casual sex ?

Well obviously the latter poses a greater moral difference, however it still doesnt make set in an unmarried relationship any more right.

Its like comparing the theft of a car to Bernie Maddoff's theft of billions of dollars. In the end, they're both still theft...

Clearly you realise the practical implications of applying a no sex before marriage policy to potential partners so then why apply it so strictly to yourself ?

That's just taking a high moral position for the sake of it.

 

[jono1887]

That's just taking a high moral position for the sake of it.

And what is wrong with this?? Don't you stand by your own values??

 

[drsmith]

And what is wrong with this?? Don't you stand by your own values??

It serves no useful purpose.

A far tougher question is the determination of which values are actually worth standing by.

 

[Julia]

And what is wrong with this?? Don't you stand by your own values??

I might be wrong, but I had the impression dr smith was suggesting your values were of a double standard in that you don't mind the future Mrs jono not being a virgin, but demand it of yourself.
Does that really sound logical to you?

(Not trying to talk you out of it, jono, your business absolutely, but just pointing out the illogical nature of your argument.)

And again, whilst not suggesting this is at all the case in your situation, occasionally a high moral stand can mask a fear of failure, in which case it would be maybe good for anyone in such a situation to have a few, um, practice rounds before that eventual wedding night.

Apologies if I'm being indelicate.

 

[white_goodman]

I dated this girl for a while. She was really a... nasty freak. She just loved to get down with sex all the time. It was like... anytime of day, she was like, "Yeah, let's go! I'm so nasty!" And I'd be nailing her and she'd be like, "Oh, you're nailing me! Cool!

 

[adobee]

I dated this girl for a while. She was really a... nasty freak. She just loved to get down with sex all the time. It was like... anytime of day, she was like, "Yeah, let's go! I'm so nasty!" And I'd be nailing her and she'd be like, "Oh, you're nailing me! Cool!

hhhahahahah best post on the thread

 

[jono1887]

I dated this girl for a while. She was really a... nasty freak. She just loved to get down with sex all the time. It was like... anytime of day, she was like, "Yeah, let's go! I'm so nasty!" And I'd be nailing her and she'd be like, "Oh, you're nailing me! Cool!

hahha... so random