Stop blaming is the 1st step

[hissho]

Hi all
I just saw an interesting thread with the title "stop immigration---i want to buy a house". It seems the author is blaming immigration for his affordability problem.

This made me think. And i realized something.

The 1st step toward my own success is stop blaming. Today I can blame immigration and tomorrow i can blame politicians and the day after tomorrow i can blame interest rates or weather or whatever....and the list goes on and on. If i try, i can ALWAYS find someone or something to blame so that i don't have to feel that bad about myself---anyway it's not my fault, it's someone else's.

In hindsight as long as i was still in that "others to blame" mindset, i was not actually doing anything, not to mention achieving anything. I was being cynical and lost my vision and self-motivation.

I personally like the following very much:
"Let others lead small lives, but not you. Let others argue over small things, but not you. Let others cry over small hurts, but not you. Let others leave their future in someone else's hands, but not you."

cheers

 

[karmatik]

Good post.

People should take the responsibility for the own lives and actions.

 

[Smurf1976]

Agreed with your sentiments.

But there's nothing "wrong" with pointing out that x is causing y and arguing that it isn't necessarily a good thing.

For example, those living in Brisbane could argue that all sorts of things have caused the water shortage. Sure, they can get themselves a tank. But it's still perfectly valid to argue that the public water supply ought to be improved. Same with housing.

 

[Wysiwyg]

Good post.

People should take the responsibility for the own lives and actions.

Very true, problems,friction and conflict arise when people infringe on other peoples lives.I would like more mutual respect and less interfering in other peoples existance.

The 1st step toward my own success is stop blaming.

Blaming comes about when others don`t admit to doing wrong.(as karmatik says)

 

[Julia]

So is success and personal happiness a matter of attitude?

 

[shinobi346]

You can be on this side of the fence or you can be on the other side of the fence. If you don't like this side of the fence then jump to the other. If you know what I'm saying....

 

[shinobi346]

So is success and personal happiness a matter of attitude?

One thing that I have found in life (in the short time that I've been here so far ) is that the friendlier you are to people the more they will try to help you out even if you don't ask them to. so I would say, yes

 

[MS+Tradesim]

So is success and personal happiness a matter of attitude?

I think so. I, for one, have never allowed my circumstances to prevent me from achieving success. I had a lot of cards dealt against me but meaningful success doesn't come from changing external factors (unless one is lobbying against child slavery etc). Success is a function of attitude and creativity.

 

[imajica]

success is about working hard and visualising yourself in that idealised role - eventually it will become a self fulfilling prophecy.

blaming your problems on external factors that are beyond your control is futile and pathetic. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get on with it! There are far too many pissweak people in this world who live wasted lives blaming others for their own weaknesses and misgivings.

 

[KIWIKARLOS]

Good post.

People should take the responsibility for the own lives and actions.

So how exactly does a single person have any impact on the immigration policies of a country. I dont think that the forum were talking about is blaming anybody. In a democratic society what other way other than free speech is there to express your ideas and opinions?

 

[KIWIKARLOS]

success is about working hard and visualising yourself in that idealised role - eventually it will become a self fulfilling prophecy.

blaming your problems on external factors that are beyond your control is futile and pathetic. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get on with it! There are far too many pissweak people in this world who live wasted lives blaming others for their own weaknesses and misgivings.

hahahaha this may be so in a lucky country like Australia where supposedly everyone is given a fair go. But what about places like zimbarbwi i dont think hard work and determination will get you anywhere because of external factors (Mugabi) So these people dont have a right to complain about their situation ?

I would also suggest that there are many people in this situation in many different socio- econimic groups. Do you think indigenous australians are given a "fair go" ?

 

[Uncle Festivus]

Hi all
I just saw an interesting thread with the title "stop immigration---i want to buy a house". It seems the author is blaming immigration for his affordability problem.

This made me think. And i realized something.

The 1st step toward my own success is stop blaming. Today I can blame immigration and tomorrow i can blame politicians and the day after tomorrow i can blame interest rates or weather or whatever....and the list goes on and on. If i try, i can ALWAYS find someone or something to blame so that i don't have to feel that bad about myself---anyway it's not my fault, it's someone else's.

In hindsight as long as i was still in that "others to blame" mindset, i was not actually doing anything, not to mention achieving anything. I was being cynical and lost my vision and self-motivation.

I personally like the following very much:
"Let others lead small lives, but not you. Let others argue over small things, but not you. Let others cry over small hurts, but not you. Let others leave their future in someone else's hands, but not you."

cheers

Perhaps the first step is to read the post for what it was - a discussion about the implications of what happens if unrestrained people flows (both national & international) is, at this point in the cycle, actually a net benefit to the incumbent population. When do we say we have too many people for the resources available - nothing to do with blaming anybody.

Agreed with your sentiments.

But there's nothing "wrong" with pointing out that x is causing y and arguing that it isn't necessarily a good thing.

For example, those living in Brisbane could argue that all sorts of things have caused the water shortage. Sure, they can get themselves a tank. But it's still perfectly valid to argue that the public water supply ought to be improved. Same with housing.

Exactly - a discussion. Immigration is but one of a number of factors, only I chose this as a point of discussion.

 

[Ageo]

So is success and personal happiness a matter of attitude?

Yes 1 person can have the attitude that they have no luck, everything goes bad for them blah blah blah. Then you have that other person that continues to learn, peruse their dreams, takes on massive challenges etc... who do you think is going to be more successful? its all about attitude (a good book is Justin Herald's "Attitude").

 

[ROE]

Funny how people complain why they cant afford this and that and migration seem to be an easy target.

What I don't understand is, the majority of migrants came here pretty much empty handed and they are so successful today.

Frank Lowy, Crazy John to name a few.

One conclusion can be drawn, hard work paid off, bitching and blaming on other people doesn't and I cant see successful people bitching about migrants, in fact most successful business people mostly praise the migrants for their determination and hard work and thanks them for their successful business.

"when the wind blows, some build shelters, other build wind mills"

are you the one building the wind mills or the shelters ?

 

[ROE]

hahahaha this may be so in a lucky country like Australia where supposedly everyone is given a fair go. But what about places like zimbarbwi i dont think hard work and determination will get you anywhere because of external factors (Mugabi) So these people dont have a right to complain about their situation ?

I would also suggest that there are many people in this situation in many different socio- econimic groups. Do you think indigenous australians are given a "fair go" ?

You are comparing apples and oranges there, we are talking about Australia here not Australia vs Zimarbwi.

And yes I think Indigenous people are given a fair chance here.
They get all the support if they are willing to take up the initiative..you get study fund, you get job preferences if you are a native.

Yes they do get discriminated against and so do most people at some stage in their life and so do most migrants.

But you got to brush it off and move on and stop living in the past.

I think it's wrong to discriminate but this is the real world, people do get discriminate, people do get badly treated but that is external factor which you cant control it. What you can control is how you handle it and move on, work hard, be better than those people, don't associate with those people etc... that sort of actions will make you a successful person rather than a victim.

 

[kgee]

I see nothing wrong in attributing blame, that is if its attributed to the correct causal factor.
I'm taking a dig here but this attitude of" stop blaming and get on with it"...seems like that new age one size fits all, life is beautiful type muck
While it may be good advice on the whole, should we bury our heads in the sand and hope the problem of housing affordability goes away?
I myself while not owning a house I'm in a position where I can....but I really feel for some of these kids especially the ones from the lower end of the socio economic scale...it must be daunting for them....maybe those with a meritocratic belief system might say to them "get over it"...but good luck I'm figuring it'll just make them angrier
Aussie prides itself on its egalitarian culture but I'm thinking if somthing about housing affordability is done Australia is going to become a 2 class country those with houses and those without.
So I'm thinking its a good idea to find whats to blame-then maybe we can do somthing about it

 

[kgee]

no arguements???

 

[Wysiwyg]

I see nothing wrong in attributing blame, that is if its attributed to the correct causal factor.
I'm taking a dig here but this attitude of" stop blaming and get on with it"...seems like that new age one size fits all, life is beautiful type muck

Thankyou for putting those words out so definitively.

 

[wayneL]

no arguements???

No argument from me. Good post IMO

 

[theasxgorilla]

Aussie prides itself on its egalitarian culture but I'm thinking if somthing about housing affordability is done Australia is going to become a 2 class country those with houses and those without.
So I'm thinking its a good idea to find whats to blame-then maybe we can do somthing about it

Falling interest rates has played an enormous part. The scope of this effect is global, so its not possible to blame any particular government or central bank. If anything the RBA and Libs have done well to keep Aust powering along as well as it has.

The egalitarian society you talk about Australian's priding themselves on is only a part of the society IMO. The other part of the society believes that they should be allowed to keep more of what they make rather than have it forcibly confiscated as part of redistributionist tax policies. Those people have been winning the vote these last 10+ years.