A way to look at loss-taking
From an early post in this thread:
There is something depressing about accepting that you made a mistake on a trade and taking a loss. Has anyone got any hints on how I can overcome this problem?
This question is forever relevant.
I would say that when one gets "depressed" about a trade moving against them, one is committing a significant psychological error: internalizing the action of the market and feeling responsible for it.
You are not responsible for the direction of the market!
You can't make it go one way or the other - not by wishing, not by hoping, not by winning or losing, not by throwing your capital at it, not by any means whatsoever.
What you are responsible for is pulling the trigger to get in and pulling the trigger to get out.
When a trade moves against you and you have a loss, you are being offered the opportunity to do the right thing - which is to GET OUT WHILE THAT LOSS IS STILL SMALL RELATIVE TO YOUR ACCOUNT.
What is "small"? Pick a number, either by elaborate study, or by rule-of-thumb - but just pick a number and stick with it. (e.g. 1 or 2% of your account size)
If you honor your loss number and GET OUT, then you have DONE THE RIGHT THING. There is no reason to be depressed about doing the right thing. In fact, when you do the right thing, you are entitled to a minor bit of self-congratulation.
You can feel good about:
- Having a plan
- Following your plan
- Understanding the basic math of why you MUST take small losses
- Demonstrating self-discipline and foresight
- Avoiding negative emotional tar pits
- Having plenty of capital left for your next trade
If you feel good about yourself, about trading, and about your relationship to trading, your likelihood of success will be FAR higher than if you are unhappy or depressed about same.
Trade very small until you have mastered yourself and your method. Congratulate yourself every time you DO THE RIGHT THING. When doing the right thing becomes a reflexive habit, success will likely be close behind.