How to ask a girl out for a date?

[Julia]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

I disagree. Becoming friends with a nice woman is never a waste of time, even if they are attached already.

Attachments often don't last, and even where they do, she could potentially still be a good friend.

And Kero, if you have trouble talking to women, then the saying holds for this as well: practice makes perfect. Get used to talking to them, anywhere with anyone - even those you're not interested in (and thus you won't care if they ignore you). The more you do it, the more natural it will become, the more you'll find to talk about, and the more you'll learn about what holds their interest and what doesn't. It will also massively boost your self-confidence. Might even make you a few new friends! You want to get to the point where talking to an unknown woman in the street feels as natural as talking to your own sister (if you have one). Practice, practice, practice!

Cheers,
GP

That is just such great advice. If you do as GP suggests, the time will come when you can confidently initiate a conversation with absolutely anyone.
Some of us are naturally shy and have had to make a determined effort to overcome what amounts to a real fear of talking to people we don't know, but it is so worth it to feel relaxed in conversation anywhere.

Don't think of her so much as a potential girlfriend at this stage (just put those hormones on hold for a bit), rather just as a person you'd like to get to know better. If nothing else, that will remove some of the stress.

Julia

 

[kerosam]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date? UPDATE

Hello folks,

went in there today and guess what??? she wasn't there!!!!!

maybe it is not meant to be.....

sigh

 

[Happy]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

6-th sense ?

 

[RichKid]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date? UPDATE

Hello folks,

went in there today and guess what??? she wasn't there!!!!!

maybe it is not meant to be.....

sigh

Maybe she does read this forum and did a runner!!

Stick to it, that's another week over which you can take priceless advice from us here on ASF!!

 

[Julia]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

Perhaps you could use her absence today as an opener for next Saturday's conversation? e.g. "I noticed you weren't working last Saturday?"
If she's friendly and outgoing she could come back with something like:"no, I have every third Saturday off and I went with friends to see the new exhibition at the art gallery" (or whatever).

If she is that responsive in conversation, then you can follow it up in kind, e.g. "what was it like" or "I saw that too, how did you enjoy it?"

If she's not interested in pursuing the conversation then she'll probably just smile politely and not offer any information about why she wasn't there.
In other words - none of your business, brother!

Don't lose heart, Kero. You may not be a step ahead today, but you're no further back either. Try again next week.

Julia

 

[visual]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

Kero,
Julia is right,you did say after all in your initial post that you suddenly noticed her,althought it is a ritual for you to go there,

 

[GreatPig]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

If she's not interested in pursuing the conversation then she'll probably just smile politely and not offer any information about why she wasn't there.
In other words - none of your business, brother!

Which is not necessarily a bad sign either. The reason may be something very personal or emotional that she doesn't wish to discuss with a stranger.

I might say though that a question like "I noticed you weren't working last Saturday?", while potentially an open question, is inviting a simple "no" answer. In the interests of getting a conversation going, try and avoid questions that can be answered with just "yes" and "no". If you just get a "no" to your opening sentence, it can be very hard to know what to say next.

Something with a touch of humour, cheekiness, and even mild flirtation might help keep you on her radar better, provided you can deliver it appropriately. Remember, first impressions are important, so try and make it a reasonably good one.

You could perhaps try something like "Hi, good to see you back again. I was worried they might have sacked you or something, and I'd have no reason to come here any more." If delivered lightly with a cheeky smile, the last part should invoke a smile in return, especially if she's as customer friendly as you indicated, and hopefully get a bit more than a simple "no" response. Even if you only get a smile, at least she'd be aware of you then, and know you're not as dull and boring as the AFR might suggest.

Anyway, good luck!

Cheers,
GP

 

[Julia]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

Kero

How about an update? Was she there last weekend?????

Julia

 

[makeorbreak]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

I think Great Pig has got some good advice there and you should take it up.
But we need to sus her out a little more.

Give us a description on her?
also, Is she shy? you can find out by seeing if she is talkative to other customers.
Whats the scenery like? is it a busy cafe where heaps of guys would come onto her or full of old people.

Fill us in alittle!

 

[YOUNG_TRADER]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

Just saw the title of this thread,


I think you should tell her how LARGE yours is, I think she'd completely go for that, I mean size does matter, give her a visual discription of the size of yours.



In case your wondering I'm refering to your investment portfolio, what was everyone else thinking??? :

 

[MalteseBull]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

priceless advice:

All women are actors, don't take them at face value. The first 2 weeks they will be all over you. The third week they would snob you off.

happens all the time

 

[crackaton]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

1. lose the afr - trust me.
2. dont admit you asked a share trading forum for advice.
3. wear a piece of clothing that would become a talking point - eg sombrero
4. a reminder, point 2 is important.
5. stalk her for a week, just to get a better idea of who she is.
6. ask her sister out just to get to know her better too.

report back to all of us.

re: 6 ask her sister out.. lol I once did this, turned out they were identical twins. Big farking mistake.