How to ask a girl out for a date?

It's Snake Pliskin · 8 June 2006

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Rafa said:
the above can be achieved by diliberately spilling coffee on yourself... followed by a well reahearsed slapstick routine and then a nice one liner abour her distracting you... and then, get straight to the point....

I`m sorry but this is the wanker movie style way - it` not genuine.

Don`t involve her work friends because they`ll polute her brain with crap.

She is one girl of heaps and she is probably not worth it. Get her or get over it.

ghotib · 8 June 2006

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dutchie said:
Quote from RK -

"I think this is one for the ladies on ASF- c'mon, help ol kero out here girls!"

With all this good advice it looks like the blokes have got it pretty well covered!!

Cheers

Dutchie

OK here's my thoughts.

All girls are not the same, so Kero's question right now is "how to ask THIS PARTICULAR girl out for a date". Personally I would like Macca's approach. Bear in mind that waitresses have probably heard every smartarse line a hundred times before their first week, so the flower is a little out of the ordinary and a bit special. Assuming she accepts the rose and stays friendly, follow through on the LISTENING part of Macca's advice. If you keep listening you'll find out how to ask more questions, including about going out.

Everyone wants to present their best face at these times and everyone tells some lies, if only by omission. Just be sure that your lies present your real best face rather than a completely false face. It sounds like this is a pretty strong attraction, and if it turns out to be mutual then she'll learn the truth about you pretty soon. Better be sure that she likes the true Kero as well as the presentable one.

Good luck.

Ghoti

websman · 8 June 2006

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Dude...If you'll tell me where she works at, I'll fly over there and pick her up for you. I'll have her swept off her feet before you know it. Chicks dig my southern accent.

MattThomson · 8 June 2006

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Look, all of these approaches have been OK but the real trick to learn is how to get her to ask you out. Don't go in there with the intention of asking her out, but to become her friend and slowly build up the relationship until she can't take it any more and jumps on you one night. That's the real art of seduction, and if you can do it properly you're set for life.

visual · 8 June 2006

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if you guys are after casual sex why dont you just pay for it,most of the posts seems to go that way.

RichKid · 8 June 2006

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websman said:
Dude...If you'll tell me where she works at, I'll fly over there and pick her up for you. I'll have her swept off her feet before you know it. Chicks dig my southern accent.

emmm, I think that's a good tip right there for Kero: learn to speak with a Southern drawl!! (and if you don't get her you'll at least know what it is that stuffed it up...).

RichKid · 8 June 2006

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MattThomson said:
Look, all of these approaches have been OK but the real trick to learn is how to get her to ask you out. Don't go in there with the intention of asking her out, but to become her friend and slowly build up the relationship until she can't take it any more and jumps on you one night. That's the real art of seduction, and if you can do it properly you're set for life.

Sounds like a Jedi mind trick, we've gone from asking the girl out to getting the girl to ask us out, you really are a master of the (dark?!) arts Matt!! 'Resident Seducer' your tag should be.

Rafa · 8 June 2006

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RichKid said:
'Resident Seducer' your tag should be.

are you Yoda in disguise RickKid...

It's Snake Pliskin · 8 June 2006

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She might have an std. Have you thought of that?

She might already be pregnant.

She might be a lesso.

She might only like Africans.

She might be a member of ASF!

She may not mix work with pleasure.

Please think about these issues.

But, she may be up for some trouser snake action, regardless. Something to think about.

Julia · 8 June 2006

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visual said:
ok,
not only do you want her to think he`s clumsy,
but also you want her to think that he`s stalking her.

sorry I know not advice,but if this is the best you guys can do no wonder there so many desperate guys out there.

I mean,why not ask her name,get to know her like any other person,and then take it from there if she is interested you`ll know soon enough if she isnt well then change coffee shop.no smaltzy lines,complicated routines anyway thats my

I'm with Visual on this when she says "...get to know her like any other person...".
The suggestion about an innocuous sort of remark at first like the "do you like coffee, or are you sick of it...."was good imo. Don't do or say anything dramatic (like Tech's suggestions from that oh so suave Duck!) unless you want to risk a similarly dramatic reaction.
Small talk at the beginning is often underrated. It doesn't much matter what you talk about - the coffee, how busy the place is, just ordinary stuff - if she wants to pursue the conversation (and/or you) she will soon let you know.
And SMILE. Keep it light. I can't speak for other women but nothing puts me off faster than sensing desperation or neediness.

I did, however, like the suggestion of the single rose, but maybe this could be in Step Two when you have established there is no boyfriend?

Good luck, Kero. Don't be shy. She might be thinking you look interesting too. If it doesn't come to anything, you haven't lost anything.

Keep us posted.

Julia

GreatPig · 8 June 2006

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Snake Pliskin said:
She might have an std. Have you thought of that?

She might already be pregnant.

She might be a lesso.

She might only like Africans.

She might be a member of ASF!

She may not mix work with pleasure.

Please think about these issues.

Gee, you're such a romantic...

Personally I wouldn't think about any of that. I'd just think "nice girl, must talk" and see where it goes from there. Anything else will likely lead to analysis paralysis.

To abuse a popular quote: a journey of a lifetime starts with a single word. "Hi" can be a pretty good one.

GP

RichKid · 8 June 2006

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Rafa said:
are you Yoda in disguise RickKid...

Appreciated yes, my humour now is...hmmmm

btw, snake, you're supposed to be helping him, not putting him off, poor kero should be thinking positive thoughts so he can send out positive vibes!! A day in the life of kerosam, boy am I looking forward to the weekend, we've got a few more days left to prepare you Kero, read all our replies closely...this is like an online version of Queer Eye for The Straight Guy, we just don't get to dress you up man!! (maybe we should give tips on that too!)....I forgot, a Sombrero was mentioned....

money tree · 8 June 2006

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dear god, please dont use one of tech/a's lines (or anyone elses). No female with an ounce of class would have a bar of it.

Women demand confidence.
They demand persistence.
They demand sincerity.

Studies have shown that good looks are important to only 10% of women. 70% of women said a good sense of humour will entice them into a date.

Be direct and confident. A womens mind is an engine that runs on compliments. say: "Hi, my name is Fred, I think your really nice (or beautiful if she is) and I would love to take you out for dinner this Friday."

DONT give her a question she can easily say no to. Make it a statement instead. Its harder to reject.

If she says no, ask again a week later. Keep asking until she says yes or gives a good reason.

son of baglimit · 8 June 2006

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richkid - the sombrero is important - chicks hate freckles

Julia · 8 June 2006

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son of baglimit said:
richkid - the sombrero is important - chicks hate freckles

Aw, not this one, son of baglimit. I think they're cute.
Still, the sombrero would surely be a talking point I guess.

Julia

kerosam · 9 June 2006

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wow! many great ideas.... i like them all... some are serious and some are cheeky.

i'm sure most of them will come in handy.

tech/a & son of baglimit, if i do use any of those you guys mentioned, will you promise to bail me out.... in a police station ???

i'm not too good with words... i'm a classic case of 'weak in the presence of beauty'.... yes, my legs get wobbly, i mumble in my words (which of course, i have to rise to the occassion on saturday morning) and hope i don't speak my mind too much.... it does occassionally gets me into an awkward situation.

all rite, i'll start with small talk then. but if it leads to a date, kudos! but small talk might not be easy as she'll be moving around serving. mmmmm, maybe i'll have brekky a bit later when the cafe is a bit quieter. i'll try to establish some info hopefully positive info (like any current bf or she might be UNDERAGE! ).

will come back to the drawing board for step 2, if there's going to be step 2.

THANKS FOLKS!!!!!!!!!!!

dutchie · 9 June 2006

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Geez this is nearly as exciting as a bear market.

Can't wait to see how the market develops tomorrow.

Good luck Kero - trust your instincts.

Cheers

Dutchie.

PS Anyone else need romantic advice from the ASF panel??

emma · 9 June 2006

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Just be yourself - no bravado, no bull***t - but you do need to find out soon, if there is already a male in her life, otherside you're wasting your time.

GreatPig · 9 June 2006

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emma said:
you do need to find out soon, if there is already a male in her life, otherside you're wasting your time

I disagree. Becoming friends with a nice woman is never a waste of time, even if they are attached already.

Attachments often don't last, and even where they do, she could potentially still be a good friend.

And Kero, if you have trouble talking to women, then the saying holds for this as well: practice makes perfect. Get used to talking to them, anywhere with anyone - even those you're not interested in (and thus you won't care if they ignore you). The more you do it, the more natural it will become, the more you'll find to talk about, and the more you'll learn about what holds their interest and what doesn't. It will also massively boost your self-confidence. Might even make you a few new friends! You want to get to the point where talking to an unknown woman in the street feels as natural as talking to your own sister (if you have one). Practice, practice, practice!

Cheers,
GP

3 veiws of a secret · 9 June 2006

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Emma says it all and what I posted previously stacks up to what Emma is saying.

Just be yourself - no bravado, no bull***t - but you do need to find out soon, if there is already a male in her life, otherside you're wasting your time.

Why am I reading this thread?????

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