Can men ever just be friends with women?

[Sean K]

Or does the sex thing always get in the way?

 

[prawn_86]

Re: Can men ever be just friends with women?

ha, my and my gf were just talking about this last night.

Its natural for men to want to 'spread the seed' so i think most men want to get it on with at least some of their women friends. I think they can be friends if either the men restrain themselves from going after 'the sex thing' or if the woman refuses intially and the man gets the picture and resigns himself to friendship status

 

[sam76]

Or does the sex thing always get in the way?

Hopefully.

 

[Nyden]

Depends on a great deal of many factors - maturity level being one of them.

I'd postulate that a pair of 60 year olds (male and female) could be best of friends without anything sexual, or romantic coming out of it. Whilst at the same time, I would not deem it appropriate for 2 unavailable 20-somethings to share such a relationship outside of their partners.

There's a general rule for when you're in a relationship - if you feel the need to keep something from your partner, you're probably doing something wrong Emotional affairs can be quite damaging. A one-night romp in bed would probably even be easier to let go of as well.

 

[mayk]

Depends on a great deal of many factors - maturity level being one of them.

I'd postulate that a pair of 60 year olds (male and female) could be best of friends without anything sexual, or romantic coming out of it. Whilst at the same time, I would not deem it appropriate for 2 unavailable 20-somethings to share such a relationship outside of their partners.

There's a general rule for when you're in a relationship - if you feel the need to keep something from your partner, you're probably doing something wrong Emotional affairs can be quite damaging. A one-night romp in bed would probably even be easier to let go of as well.

Wait till you are 60 Interesting poll result so far.

P.S: Just friends sucks with hot girls.

 

[Nyden]

Wait till you are 60 Interesting poll result so far.

P.S: Just friends sucks with hot girls.

The age is not entirely the point, but the maturity level. There would of course even be quite a few 80 year old individuals to whom such a relationship would be inappropriate!

I guess age is an issue though as well; as surely 80+ year olds do not find fellows of their own age to be "hot". I would assume that when seeking relationships at that age, personality, security, and perhaps even health would be the dominating factors!

... all I know is, I've never yet seen an elderly gentlemen "checking out" an 80 year old woman

 

[Sean K]

There's a general rule for when you're in a relationship - if you feel the need to keep something from your partner, you're probably doing something wrong Emotional affairs can be quite damaging. A one-night romp in bed would probably even be easier to let go of as well.

Interesting point this.

I've contested before that an emotional relationship can be more damaging than a sexual one, but some women have shot me down ....

 

[Sean K]

I'm trying to amend the poll to read:

Yes, under some circumstances

to make it seem more reasonable...

 

[tigerboi]

Or does the sex thing always get in the way?

ha, my and my gf were just talking about this last night.

Its natural for men to want to 'spread the seed' so i think most men want to get it on with at least some of their women friends. I think they can be friends if either the men restrain themselves from going after 'the sex thing' or if the woman refuses intially and the man gets the picture and resigns himself to friendship status

Hopefully.

firstly i didnt know you could use quoted text to punch above 100 shady characters...

secondly it is possible to not want to get about all good sorts however it is fraught with much peril where the woman wants & you dont...women dont take rejection well...
women in this instance can become very vicious,vindictive,vacuous,vain,vampish,vehement,venereal!,anymore v's?
venting
(of course),vengeful,verbal,virginal!,vexing,vigilant,vile!,vitriolic,violent,virtuous,
vocal,vociferous,volcanic!,vulgar,vulturesque...

fine line between being friends & holding out on the wrong woman...all only my opinion & past experience...tb

 

[prawn_86]

firstly i didnt know you could use quoted text to punch above 100 shady characters...

TB, 100char rule only applies in stock thread. General chat and other forums its fine to use less that 100char

 

[Sean K]

Also, please note that this is men just being friends with women.

'Can women just be friends with men' may be another topic, but of course not unrelated.

Or, the women may want to add their in here anyway.

 

[GreatPig]

Depends whether you're sexually attracted to the women or not. If you are sexually attracted to a women, then "let's just be friends" is the sexual equivalent of the fat lady singing! While it can be frustrating just being friends with a woman you're sexually attracted to, it is certainly possible.

On the other hand, being friends with a woman you're not sexually attracted to is dead easy. I know some guys would have it on with anything on two legs, but some of us are more discerning!

I think it also depends a lot on the quality and quantity of the sex you're getting already. If that's good, then missing out on more isn't such a big deal (especially if you're married! ).

GP

 

[xyzedarteerf]

i have been friends with my ex for a few years now, my answer would be yes as the sex already happened so the sexual tension is already gone, with her being interstate probably helps my partner accept our friendship.

 

[chops_a_must]

Yes.

One of my best mates is a 'sheila'. Can't happen if there is physical attraction there though.

 

[gav]

Just because you find someone attractive, doesnt mean you want to have sex with them. I cant speak for others, but I am friends with females who I find attractive but do not want to sleep with..

 

[nomore4s]

Yes.

One of my best mates is a 'sheila'. Can't happen if there is physical attraction there though.

Does he know you call him a sheila, lol :


(Joking)

 

[Calliope]

Yes. Now that women are starting to think and act like men, procreation can be ruled out of the equation. We have just about reached the point where men and women engage in sex, as casually as as they satisfy other needs together, like hunger or thirst.

A lot of the younger people I know often form short relationships, and then move on to other partners. They remain in the same groups and stay friends, with no recriminations as far as I can see.

 

[Nyden]

Yes. Now that women are starting to think and act like men, procreation can be ruled out of the equation. We have just about reached the point where men and women engage in sex, as casually as as they satisfy other needs together, like hunger or thirst.

A lot of the younger people I know often form short relationships, and then move on to other partners. They remain in the same groups and stay friends, with no recriminations as far as I can see.

Do you not think that this is at all dangerous though? When sex is left to be something 'special' within a loving relationship, it aids to create a bond between 2 people. However, once sex becomes a common and casual 'handshake' between friends, does this not have a detrimental impact on ones overall emotional state, and their ability to remain in a stable, and committed relationship?

The young women of today are quite ghastly though, what with their 'new' attitudes.

 

[voyz]

im struggling with my ex atm who wants to be friends but has another partner. dont want anything to do with her anymore as she only calls when she needs sumthing. i guess it depends if u have feeling for the girl or not wehter u can JUST be friends.

 

[Glen48]

It all depends on your DNA ( not on the ASX ).
And you relationship with the Woman if she was your boss and married or an Employee suppose this is why Females need the law to protect them unless they want to break the law then it is ok.