Can men ever just be friends with women?

[Sean K]

i guess it depends if u have feeling for the girl or not wehter u can JUST be friends.

Interesting point. Do the emotional feelings come before the sexual feelings for males?

 

[Boggo]

Yes. Now that women are starting to think and act like men, procreation can be ruled out of the equation.

That comment reminded me of a guy I used to work with, he kept trying (unsuccessfully) to convince me that "sex is for procreation, not for recreation."

Best fun you can have without laughing, although sometimes you gotta have a little giggle :jerry

 

[tigerboi]

Hopefully.

TB, 100char rule only applies in stock thread. General chat and other forums its fine to use less that 100char

now i get it coz i was thinking gee sams light on there...tb

 

[Calliope]

Do you not think that this is at all dangerous though? When sex is left to be something 'special' within a loving relationship, it aids to create a bond between 2 people. However, once sex becomes a common and casual 'handshake' between friends, does this not have a detrimental impact on ones overall emotional state, and their ability to remain in a stable, and committed relationship?

The young women of today are quite ghastly though, what with their 'new' attitudes.

You are quite right. These situations can only be to the detriment of society, but the numbers sharing this view are dwindling.

Men quickly become mates with women act like them. They are attracted to those who share the following attributes;

binge drinking
falling down drunk
vomiting in public
overt farting and belching
using obscene and uncouth language
aggressive driving
road rage
promiscuous shagging, etc

Women used to have a moderating influence on men's behaviour. But no more. They have joined them.

 

[Naked shorts]

Well, I thought it was possible. But put alcohol & dancing into the mix and welll.. lets just say I had two GF's I thought were just friends..... (on separate occasions, unfortunately)

 

[Sean K]

Well, I thought it was possible. But put alcohol & dancing into the mix and welll.. lets just say I had two GF's I thought were just friends..... (on separate occasions, unfortunately)

LOL, I'm sure a few beers at the work Christmas party has resulted in some regrettful actions..

Unfortunately, I think alcohol just distorts reason, not make you say or do things you really mean.

Or, not.

Another question:

Would any male here be happy to see his partner going to long lunches, or after work drinks with a male work collegue over an extended period of time? What do you think the result would be?

 

[Nyden]

Would any male here be happy to see his partner going to long lunches, or after work drinks with a male work collegue over an extended period of time? What do you think the result would be?

The male colleague winding up at the bottom of a lake, with a new pair of cement boots :

 

[Boggo]

Post-it notes, for when you have too many 'friends'

 

[Agentm]

LOL, I'm sure a few beers at the work Christmas party has resulted in some regrettful actions..

Unfortunately, I think alcohol just distorts reason, not make you say or do things you really mean.

Or, not.

Another question:

Would any male here be happy to see his partner going to long lunches, or after work drinks with a male work collegue over an extended period of time? What do you think the result would be?

no probs on the partner having lunches with males, nor working them nor anything really..

imho many here are saying they cant have female friends, i have many and often find myself being the only male in a group of 6 or 8 female friends, either out socially or weekends away just as sometimes my partner ends up with a house full of males sometimes..

no one i know has hangups on this what so ever, anyone feeling that way simply isnt going to cut it with the people i know.. i find this topic really odd really. its like saying you cant trust yourself or your partner to have a friendship with any males/females outside of your relationship. thats bizarre!! whether your a male of female a friend is a friend..

 

[Ageo]

lol i laugh everytime i hear/read or talk about this.

For most guys i reckon if the girl "friend" became really close and actually insisted she wanted to sleep with you (and actually tried to seduce you) i reckon 99.9% of guys would do it. I know this sounds slack but in school i never wanted to be friends with girls i couldnt see myself sleeping with and for some reason that stood with most males in my yr (and alot in the school).

Any guy that says he can be really close friends with a female who tries to hit on you or flirts with you etc.... and doesnt want to sleep with her is a fookin liar

 

[Boggo]

Any guy that says he can be really close friends with a female who tries to hit on you or flirts with you etc.... and doesnt want to sleep with her is a fookin liar

Or he is a double adaptor, not that there is anything wrong with that :22_yikes:

 

[MRC & Co]

Just because you find someone attractive, doesnt mean you want to have sex with them. I cant speak for others, but I am friends with females who I find attractive but do not want to sleep with..

Really? lol, could have fooled me!

Agree with Chops though, you can if your not sexually attracted to her, just hope she is not sexually attracted to you either, it can work both ways!

 

[MRC & Co]

Unfortunately, I think alcohol just distorts reason, not make you say or do things you really mean.

This could be an entire new thread on it's own.

Many say, "a drunken mans words, are a sober mans thoughts".

IMVHO, that is complete and utter BS. I've said many things when I'm drunk (don't even remember saying them sometimes), that I honestly have NO CLUE where I ever got them from.

 

[gav]

Really? lol, could have fooled me!

Agree with Chops though, you can if your not sexually attracted to her, just hope she is not sexually attracted to you either, it can work both ways!

Haha MRC! I guess this is where what Great Pig said earler: "I think it also depends a lot on the quality and quantity of the sex you're getting already. If that's good, then missing out on more isn't such a big deal"

I am very happy in that department, so maybe thats why

 

[MRC & Co]

I am very happy in that department, so maybe thats why

Yes, I am getting good quality and as much quantity as I would like.

BUT..............ever heard the theory about the new cow and the old cow? Something new (and attractive), would always be fun! Perhaps I should have been born into a Muslim community?

 

[golfmos123]

Interesting comments being floated around. I have many female friends so I guess that makes me either ugly, viewed as safe, or they know my wife will hunt them down if they try anything!!!

 

[ColB]

Quote:
Originally Posted by Calliope
Yes. Now that women are starting to think and act like men, procreation can be ruled out of the equation.

Quote:
Originally Posted by BOGGO??

“That comment reminded me of a guy I used to work with, he kept trying (unsuccessfully) to convince me that "sex is for procreation, not for recreation."

Best fun you can have without laughing, although sometimes you gotta have a little giggle”

It’s great to read a girl’s post demonstrating a little libido!

Like I think I’m in luuv.

There’s something about the name ‘BOGGO’ that just doesn’t quite do it for me though!!

 

[2020hindsight]

only marginally relevant, but the Aussie MCP is probably becoming harder to find ... ten years ago, would men have been caught dead wearing pink to the cricket ?

http://www.abc.net.au/news/stories/2009/01/05/2459562.htm

SCG a sea of pink for breast cancer
Posted 1 hour 2 minutes ago

Spectators turned the SCG into a sea of pink today as they marked Jane McGrath Day during the third Test match against South Africa.

The Jane McGrath Foundation says it has raised $300,000 so far to help fund breast cancer nurses.

Former cricketer Glenn McGrath says nine in 10 spectators wore something pink today to help raise awareness of the disease six months after his wife's death.

 

[tech/a]

Hell yeh!

I have 2 very long term "Girl friends" Each I have known for over 20 yrs.
Each around 15 yrs ago before I married again and in the 12 yrs of Bachelor party before marriage no 2 with my wife of now 10 yrs, in both cases we had the opportunity to "Get Physical" both are 8 yrs younger than me. Both girls are very much people most guys want to get physical with,infant both hate the attention.

One Has now been married 8 yrs and the other divorced after 8 yrs of marriage to a guy 8 yrs younger than her.

In both cases at "Crunch time" I asked.
Do you want our friendship OR the memory even though we all were single at the time.
We all chose the friendship.

I and they cherish that great friendship,one of unconditional love we have that we can both share without guilt or secrecy!

By the way my wife has 4 male friends who are longterm and share a very similar story. 2 in the UK I have met and 2 here in australia I also know well.
She also knows my friends.
In both cases my wife and I we keep those friendships for us,we rarely get together as a group.

So it is possible.

 

[Glen48]

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