Sounds like a tough spot to be in DocK. Can't offer any insight or experience but I hope it works out for you and your family.
Thanks McLovin.
Thanks Sptrawler - unfortunately my mother, brother and myself are her only living relatives, so providing balance from cousins etc is not possible. Hard enough for the three of us to agree on a course of action sometimesA friend of mine is in a similar situation.
He is in his late 50's, he has his mother of 95 living with him, now his wife has left for greener pastures.
his Aunt (mothers sister) is 97 lives alone, but he is the only relative that looks after her, does her shopping, goes to her place 60k's each way twice a week.
By the way he is an only child and his aunt has no children.
What he did was get power of attorny along with his cousin. It seems to be working, I think he`said she was much happier to agree when there were two involved.
I'm just gratefull I'm not in the same position.
Best of luck.
Thanks Julia. The single thing I dread most about the aging process is the possibility of diminishing mental facility. It's sad to see people who've been very sharp all of their lives slowly deteriorate - I can only imagine how frustrating it must be for them. On that note, although it sounds rather callous, my aunt's general health seems to be declining rapidly and I sorta hope she fades away physically faster than mentally. I'm quite sure she'd prefer to pass away from illness with her mental faculties mostly intact, rather than linger for years in a state of dementia. However - what will be will be, and we'll just have to take things as they come.Not rambling at all and more relevant to the topic than we might wish.
Approaching your aunt's vagueness etc via her GP sounds sensible. I don't know what the situation is if the GP were to do tests and find her cognitive function diminished. Presume he'd then ask for an ACAT assessment.
At best that's going to see her persuaded into some form of assisted living which she might resent. The fine line your family seems to be treading is one of maintaining her limited confidence whilst having her understand that you are primarily concerned for her welfare. To put that to a very independent, strong minded person is not easy.
I wish you all the best and hope you might let us know how it goes, as many people will be in a similar situation.
Exactly right - this issue is one that will become an increasing concern as modern medicine ensures that people live longer - with the result that their physical health may outstrip their mental health. I guess when the average life expectancy was "three score years and ten" most would fall off the perch before they started to lose their mental grip. I try to remember this when dealing with my teenagers - they may very well be the ones I need to wipe the drool off my chin one daywow Julia,
that must be hard, and sadly I see some trouble coming in that way with my dad.
Add the complexity of a different country, stubbornness and two different tax systems and you have a nasty cooking pot....
All this is a bit off subject but we should all remember that our sharpness of mind may fade one day and we always leave the mess behind while gliding into senility.And SMSF will not ease the problem
Sorry to derail this discussion but hopefully some find this useful.
Some of the issues raised lately in this thread will cause some big legal problems as the population ages. (snip)
A lot of these issues have been black and white in the past. However with a large ageing population and their large asset pools there could be a lot of legal wrangling going on that did not happen in the past. I am sure some of the policy around this will need to be looked at.
Indeed. One of the problems is agreement on a course of action by the children/relatives of the diminished person. My brother and I disagreed vehemently on the treatment my father should receive (or not) at the end of his life, which could probably have been avoided had he made a health directive or at least set out in writing his wishes. It's a difficult thing for some to confront the matter of their eventual passing, or decline in mental ability, but it does make things so much easier for those that are left to care for them if they have a directive to follow.
Anyway, enough of this morbidity - let's get back to discussing whether the loss of tax revenue that could have been levied on super contributions should really be considered as a cost. It occurs to me that a tax not charged is not really a cost, but an aged pension paid definately is. I can't get away from the idea that if the present cost of providing the incentive to self-fund retirement eventually results in saving the real cost of taxpayer funded aged pensions, then surely that's a good thing? Much as I don't like the idea of gummint telling me what I can and can't do with my voluntary contributions - maybe severely limiting the amount/% of lump sum taken from super is a better one. If you were 30 and told that all concessionally taxed super contributions, whether by employer, salary sacrificed or voluntary had to be taken upon retirement as a lifetime annuity style pension - would you still contribute in order to gain the present tax advantage and the future retirement security? I guess you could consider it a quid pro quo of sorts - tax break now but no lump sum later.......