Protecting Assets Without a Pre-Nup?
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Or ms serotonin deficient.
Its always better not to love and lose .. unless your are in it for the free sex
Julia
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Well, Spanning Tree, maybe you need to look for a woman who is wealthier than you, has a more successful career, and is sufficiently OK with herself not to be interested in fleecing the assets of a bloke.
It's a really jaundiced view to believe that women are out simply to use men. If this is your experience, then you're moving in the wrong circles.
And if you really believe that marriage or any committed relationship is just another form of prostitution, then best to avoid any such commitment and pay for the plain and simple form of prostitution. Then you'll have no worries about the ulterior motives of women.
Wysiwyg
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Yeah they`re out there.There isn`t enough fat wallets to go around.
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As unmanly as it sounds, I really do want to love a girl. But I have heard so many horror stories (both here and on from friends), and I wonder whether gold-digging happens because some women are just psychotic or whether this instinct to use men as income-producing assets is something inherent in all women, with some women disguising it better than others. That the latter could be true is what depresses me.
It will be interesting to note the statistics of age difference for pre-nup agreements (if someone has any info please post away). I mean most guys in there 45-60 will only get a 20-30 delight only if they are rich.
If both are starting young 20-30 and working, then I don't think the need to have a pre-nup will arise.
Lastly, if a woman is a housewife and does not work, then I think it only makes sense that the assets are divided 50/50 otherwise she will get the short end of the stick. She won't be able to find a job in her middle age.
Marriage is just like an expensive tax, where the payment is made at divorce.
If both are starting young 20-30 and working, then I don't think the need to have a pre-nup will arise.
Lastly, if a woman is a housewife and does not work, then I think it only makes sense that the assets are divided 50/50 otherwise she will get the short end of the stick. She won't be able to find a job in her middle age.
Marriage is just like an expensive tax, where the payment is made at divorce.
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There's no need to be so cynical/wary at your age (I presume you're young in 20's or so)
Leave the bitterness for those who have had bad marriage experiences there are plenty of couples out there as happy as you'd ever hope to be.
Just be sensible and dont let your heart completely rule your head and make sure you go with someone who loves you not someone you're infatuated with who doesn't show the same depth of feelings.
If it's not there from day one it never will be.
If that is REALLY the case you would be prepared to give her all you have now without question. That is the measure of true love.
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That's more a case of "love is blind"
If she loved him she wouldn't want his money.
She has to be your friend, you know with mates how they act toward you ?
How they accept you for what you are ? what you really are - farts and all ?
Don't fall for this crap about "she's a woman it's different" IT ISN'T
I wish someone had drummed this into me decades ago.
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You've heard a lot of horror stories, but you haven't heard any good ones? Really?? Not to have a go, but what intrigues me is that it seems to be the horror stories you're listening to. People's filters are always interesting.
There are plenty of apathetic worthless guys out there too. And then there are guys who make sweeping generalisations about women, and women who make sweeping generalisations about men. . .
When it comes to relationships, like often attracts like. Work on making yourself balanced, kind, fair, self-aware and wise and expect the same from a partner.
"The latter" absolutely is not true. I've always been comparatively comfortable (if not rich) and can honestly never say I've dated a gold digger. I prefer to date strong, accomplished women. Nothing sexier.
PS: What's 'unmanly' about wanting to be in love?? Geez. I wonder if you have problems asking for directions too
