Thanks, qldfrog. Sounds fair to me. You wouldn't be concerned that it would perhaps seem condescending/patronising?after thinking about it, and to be sure of what I should do if that happens to me,
I would pay for the items myself at the counter and directly
but with some self rightous conditions:
would not pay for a box of lollies, crap food or otherwise, or if the lady leaves the bread/flour sugar behind but keep her copy of "new ideas" anyway you see the point.
would that be fair?
Happiness = Success= for me is being able to look to the future positively and not look back on my past with regrets
Happiness = Success
“Live a good life. If there are gods and they are just, then they will not care how devout you have been, but will welcome you based on the virtues you have lived by. If there are gods, but unjust, then you should not want to worship them. If there are no gods, then you will be gone, but will have lived a noble life that will live on in the memories of your loved ones.”
once got that as well, same as keeping a door open for a lady these daysThanks, qldfrog. Sounds fair to me. You wouldn't be concerned that it would perhaps seem condescending/patronising?
A while ago I offered to help a bloke in a wheelchair who seemed to be having lots of trouble managing to reach for something on a shelf. He spat back that he was perfectly able to look after himself thank you, so I'm a bit wary of being intrusive and seeming to interfere.
He's always a good source in all matters in life. Thank you for the quote.I always revert to Marcus Aurelius on matters such as this.
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Really? I feel like I have a life time of regrets and missed opportunities.....
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Insightful comments. Thanks to you both.It's the self criticism, that drive that makes them successful, that can also lead to living a tumultuous life.
Thanks, qldfrog. Sounds fair to me. You wouldn't be concerned that it would perhaps seem condescending/patronising?
A while ago I offered to help a bloke in a wheelchair who seemed to be having lots of trouble managing to reach for something on a shelf. He spat back that he was perfectly able to look after himself thank you, so I'm a bit wary of being intrusive and seeming to interfere.
How much Time I have that is mine to spend however I like.
Positive effect on others
Even if it's just one person.
Happiness = Success= for me is being able to look to the future positively and not look back on my past with regrets .Regard prior hassles and mistakes as a learning experience.
This brings up one of the great paradoxes of being human I reckon.
Most of the most successful people that I've come across, are also some of the most fundamentally unhappy.
It's the self criticism, that drive that makes them successful, that can also lead to living a tumultuous life.
Which then begs the question I guess about what measure we're looking at.
This question has been floating around in my head the last few days. I think a lot (if not most) people measure success by the amount of money they have/earn. Some measure it by how happy they are. Some use their children/family life as a measure.
So I'm curious, how do YOU measure success or failure in your life? I mean, what would have to happen for you to call your life a success? A failure? Or perhaps there is no such thing as success/failure in life?
There you go.
I was just thinking of bringing up Anna Meares. Successful? You bet. Even without Olympic success? Even more so.
I'm assuming by the way you pose all these questions about money, that you must mix with some people in your work who are of questionable character (deceitful, cunning, manipulative). You think that to become rich you have to be like them, but not all wealth is achieved that way. The majority of it is, sure, but not all.
Lots of insightful and though provoking responses, thanks to all, I have appreciated each and every single one.
All the people in my work are of great, noble character, but the latter part of your assumption holds some ground.
One other thing I want to say...
Beyond a certain point off 'enough', excess money is used to buy excitement and distraction (flash cars, house, holidays, clothes etc). This excitement and distraction is only ever to cover up a feeling of loneliness, separation and isolation. If there is no underlying feeling of isolation and loneliness, this desire for excess doesn't appear. So the more someone strives to have a lot of money, the more he reinforces the belief that he is unlovable. This is how/why the cycle perpetuates - the more you have, the more you feel you need. The less you strive for excess, the more adequate and complete you feel, (though it might not feel that way to begin with, depending on the degree of addiction). Then a stable kind of peace and happiness is more likely. It's quite paradoxical, but the truth always is.
GB when you going to start your own church?
Really? I feel like I have a life time of regrets and missed opportunities.....
Perhaps I didn't express myself adequately.....
You can't go through two divorces without regrets but what I meant to say was that I don't let the past regrets
shape my future.
I see too many older people being bitter about and dwelling in the past.( life's too short)
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