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MrBurns said:
My father once said good looks come from the inside.

A good looking person who is really dumb or has a really bad personality is not attractive, a good looking person who is quick, clever and bubbly is gorgeous.

I dont find Elle Mc Pherson attractive but her sister is really nice.

Geez the more I go on the less i think I know about this but an old friend of mine who had teeth like Freddy Mercury, he could eat an apple through a picket fence once said ,"no matter what you look like there's always someone who digs ya"
His girlfriend was a stunner.
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Yeah agreed, they need to be hot, smoking hot, damn hot, and smart/have a great personality.
Too often people try and kid themselves that personality is king, not too sure why, maybe they think they're ugly and can't judge? no idea, it doesn't make sense. perhaps people putting all their faith in personality is why relationships deteriorate and peeps become unfaithful? maybe not.
Its an interesting and bizarre characteristic of us Aussies.
 
No matter how good looking someone is, i think their personailty needs to be better than their looks. With hot girls the bar is set pretty high, so i often feel let down...
 
I'm going to reply based on the materials I have..."followed" several years ago. (before I am in a relationship that is!)

Here is a list of personality traits that are considered "attractive" to all women regardless of backgrounds and looks. Of course, each women IS different and would be more attracted to a combination of traits over others.

• Funny. Humor is just plain powerful with women. If you can keep her laughing, you will go far.

• Intelligent and Creative. Intelligence is sexy IF it’s used in a way that’s interesting to her. Use your creativity and intelligence to surprise her with ideas, fantasies, and unexpected things that charm her.

• Educated. Education is attractive to women as long as it’s used in an interesting way. Some women are actually intimidated by education, which usually works in your favor.

• Classy and Cultured. If you have class, women pick up on it. Do your shoes and belt match? Do you understand interior design and color contrast? Do you know about different types of wine? Do you like foreign movies? Do you understand fashion? Do you like Frank Sinatra? Do you enjoy exotic foods? Do you serve her Hors d’oeuvres and a glass of wine when she visits? Do you open all doors for her? Women notice this stuff BIG TIME.

• Dominant. Women have an unconscious attraction to dominant men. The dominant males in some primate groups account for up to 75% of all the matings, while the less dominant males go without any. Same goes for humans.

• Thoughtful. Women don’t just like gifts; they like knowing that you were THINKING of them. The gift is a SYMBOL. Women feel the same amount of good inside whether it’s a card or a diamond (of course, the diamond lasts longer, so there are more ‘times of feeling good’!). But the fact is that women like to know that you’re thinking about them. Even if you’re telling a woman that you don’t like it that she was out with another guy, she’ll like it because it means you were thinking about her!

• Notices Significant Details. Women don’t just notice details; they USE them to try to be attractive and attentive. If she is wearing a sexy outfit, she didn’t put it on by accident. If her hair is done nicely, it wasn’t a fluke. Women are very impressed and attracted to men who notice these details.

• Unpredictable/Predictable. Here’s a paradox. Women are drawn to men who they can’t control or predict. They obsess over guys who flirt, give them attention, and then don’t call the next day. Predictability is only attractive when it comes to choosing a HUSBAND. Then a woman usually wants a man who’s VERY predictable.

• Enthusiastic, Fun, Happy. Nothing is a bigger turn-off than a killjoy. Some men get upset and pout when a woman is happy and try to put down the things that she enjoys to sound superior, which is usually a HUGE mistake. Enthusiasm is infectious and attractive.

• Adventurous. Women are instantly attracted to men who like to do extreme, adventurous, unusual, and even dangerous things. It’s exciting. Adventurism is sexy.

• Aggressive. Women love men that know what they want and go after it. Passion is a sign of life. I’m not talking about the kind of aggressive that turns into date rape. I’m talking about the kind of aggressive that turns into setting a goal and then going after it with passion and getting it no matter what.

• Confident/Cocky. Women are magnetically attracted to men who are just a little bit too cocky. Just a little bit. This is a tough one to explain. Many men take this to mean ‘overly arrogant’, which is not what I mean. If you watch Pierce Brosnan in ‘The Thomas Crown Affair’, Clarke Gable in ‘Gone With The Wind’, or Tom Cruise in ‘Top Gun’, you’ll get an idea of what I’m talking about. The confident/cocky trait is mild overconfidence combined with humor. Drives women wild.
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From David Angelo materials, DoubleDating.com

Remember attraction IS NOT a choice. Most women would NOT admit they are attracted to certain traits they would previously consider to be NON-marriage material. But they are attracted to them unconsiciously anyway. It's built into their genes. And attraction is not logical as well.
 
My belief is Attraction isn't a Choice... You may have preferences such as big boobies and coke bottle figure but if she was drop kick and a COW (Center of the World) I'd be over her in a flash... Do not confuse preferences for attractiveness.... That's what everyone does...

"If a girl isn't attracted to you then there is nothing you can do but if she is attracted to you then there is nothing she can do" David DeAngelo

That is so true...

For guys we need to be Fun, Adventurous, Highly Social and dress well... And very Importantly be Ambitious... You don't need money but it certainly can help...

You know what this applies to girls too... Enough said before I write a book on this topic...
 
Temjin said:
I'm going to reply based on the materials I have..."followed" several years ago. (before I am in a relationship that is!)

Here is a list of personality traits that are considered "attractive" to all women regardless of backgrounds and looks. Of course, each women IS different and would be more attracted to a combination of traits over others.



From David Angelo materials, DoubleDating.com

Remember attraction IS NOT a choice. Most women would NOT admit they are attracted to certain traits they would previously consider to be NON-marriage material. But they are attracted to them unconsiciously anyway. It's built into their genes. And attraction is not logical as well.
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Inned to work the Dominant one just because I'm not around any one social group long enough to exert it... His material is the bomb
 
Hot first, have to be physically attracted to them.

Caring and nurturing.

Likes sports.

Has her own interests other than the next issue of Cosmepolitan (spelling)! Had my fair share of them and was bored out of my brain quick.

Confidence helps too, but not the kind where she thinks she's hot and chews her gum with an open mouth! Hate those ones.
 
Symmetry is what makes a person 'physically' attactive.

But i've found that personality can really turn me on more than anything. You know those really cheerful girls who are always bright and cheerful. I like those chicks the most.
 
It certainly isn't spending 23hrs straight on a uni assignment wearing track pants, ugg boots and a melbourne demons scarf with no showering, no hint of a toothbrush and about 5 cans of red bull....

The ladies have been giving me a WIDE berth....

~Kieran

EDIT: I am in the uni computer labs, not at home BTW...
 
Sorry Gav, not what you asked for but Simon Baker (The Mentalist) has just been voted sexist man on TV in the USA. Seems just like an ordinary bloke to me.
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Aussie hunk Simon Baker has ended Patrick Dempsey's two-year reign as the sexiest man on television.

FULL STORY HERE
 
Looks matter in the short term but you pretty much forget about that in the long term where personality becomes far more important. :2twocents
 
Pheromones have something to do with it too, If you smell like her father you're in.
Not sure what thats supposed to mean but perhaps it's a Tasmanian or Texan thing.
 
Bill M said:
Sorry Gav, not what you asked for but Simon Baker (The Mentalist) has just been voted sexist man on TV in the USA. Seems just like an ordinary bloke to me.
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Aussie hunk Simon Baker has ended Patrick Dempsey's two-year reign as the sexiest man on television.

FULL STORY HERE
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It still fits in the topic. The world must love Aussie guys, wasn't Hugh Jackman voted the world's sexiest man recently?
 
gav said:
Haha, well I thought it was interesting - even though I don't agree with it.

Make sure you get Smithers to read it to you daily... :p:
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Whats not to agree with ?

It seems to have everything that I've always thought but never actally thought deeply about, that list seems to detail it all.

Smithers is off to some mardi gras or something, having a gay old time no doubt.
 
Yeah I like a well shaped female body with a philosophical leaning and a love of nature.

p.s. How much? :p:
 
alwaysLearning said:
Symmetry is what makes a person 'physically' attactive.
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Have to say, that is the biggest BS myth I have ever seen.

I've read studies of this, where they disprooved it.

It showed numerous photos of a copy of somebodies right side, and then perfect symmetry generated on the left side of the face and vice-versa.

And other complete and utter natural photos of them, where naturally, they were not symmetrical at all, many of the times, they were far more attractive and the vast majority of those surveyed thought the same.

If you have a big nose, a tiny chin, puffy cheecks, and a receeding hairline as a man, symmetry of both sides is not going to make it look any better ;)
 

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