What makes somebody "attractive"?

[gav]

What makes somebody "attractive"?

The topic: "Why do models marry old ugly millionaires?" got me thinking...
Why are we so judgmental when it comes to attractiveness?

I used to get called "shallow" quite often because I only dated physically attractive women. My other males I knew would be in relationships with people who would not be as good looking (but not ugly), who would be "smart with a good personality", or so they told me. Yet these same guys read FHM/Ralph/Zoo, will stop and stare for a looong time when a good looking woman walks by (long enough to make them feel uncomfortable), and often go to the strippers. But I'm the shallow one, yet I did none of these things...

1. What makes a person "attractive"?
2. Can you be more attracted to a person simply because they have more wealth/power or are of celebrity status?
3. Who are we to judge what someone finds attractive?
4. Is there a list of criteria you must meet to marry someone?
5. What are YOU attracted to?

1. What makes a person "attractive"?
Is it their looks, personality, selflessness, success, charm, power, money, celebrity status? How can somebody be attracted to materialistic items like money?

2. Can you be more attracted to a person simply because they have more wealth/power or are of celebrity status?
Do some qualities make up for others? If you are famous or wealthy, then its OK that you aren't as good looking? If you are a really nice person, then is it OK that you aren't successful? (and visa versa)

3. Who are we to judge what someone finds attractive?
If you wrote out a list of the things you wanted in your ideal partner and you write "smart/intelligent", it is seen as being OK. Yet if you write "good looking" (whatever your own definition of that is), you are seen as being shallow.

We all have the ability to learn and expand our knowledge - no matter how smart or dumb we are. But not everyone can be a brain surgeon. Just as we all have the ability to improve our physical appearance - whether it be by diet/exercise, or by the way we present ourselves. But not everyone can look like Brad Pitt or Scarlett Johansson. Is being in a relationship with someone who is smart more important than being with someone who is good looking? Why is this? No one is perfect, but we all have the ability to improve on both aspects.

4. Is there a list of criteria you must meet to marry someone?
Are there any laws, as to a criteria we must fit or abide by to marry someone? If so, then can someone be charged with fraud if you can prove they married then divorced for money? If there are no laws, why not? Furthermore, if there are no laws, then why is it viewed by public as a negative thing when someone marries for money or other motives?

5. What are YOU attracted to?

 

[Ageo]

Gav you remind me of my brother inlaw, he's been a body builder and on the gear for yrs. His previous wife and now current wife all had to have great bodies, he also loves them showing it off (low skirt, short top etc...) personally i think he's a wanker but he makes me laugh as he thinks good looks substitute for personality but i can see his new wife already not liking it. P.S did i mention the gear has killed his sex life? he goes on about how he can not have sex for months and he's so proud of it.

Anywayz to answer your question of course looks creates the 1st meet but for long term is has to be personality.

 

[gordon2007]

5. What are YOU attracted to?

Life and the ability to enjoy it.

 

[gav]

Gav you remind me of my brother inlaw, he's been a body builder and on the gear for yrs. His previous wife and now current wife all had to have great bodies, he also loves them showing it off (low skirt, short top etc...) personally i think he's a wanker but he makes me laugh as he thinks good looks substitute for personality but i can see his new wife already not liking it. P.S did i mention the gear has killed his sex life? he goes on about how he can not have sex for months and he's so proud of it.

Anywayz to answer your question of course looks creates the 1st meet but for long term is has to be personality.

I never once said that any of my g/f's didn't have any personality, I just said they were good looking. Where did I say good looks substitute personality? My girlfriend is beautiful, but she is also also the most caring, sweetest human being I have ever met. When out, she is covered from neck to toe, does not reveal much skin at all. I like the way she dresses, and I don't like people gawking at her. I won't give details about my sex life, but from the sound of it mine is much better than your brother in-law's. It seems as if he needs to learn about PCT (Post Course Treatment).

Also, I compete in a natural bodybuilding federation and have never used any illegal performance enhancing substances in my life, nor do I intend to. I have a government job which I would lose immediately if I used anything illegal. There are also many other reasons I don't use gear, but that is totally irrelevant to this thread. It doesn't seem like I have much in common with your brother in-law at all...

I started this thread to see what peoples thoughts were on what makes a person attractive, and listed those 5 questions to try and help get the ball rolling.

Although I was hoping for something a little more thought provoking, I do agree with your last sentence - "Anywayz to answer your question of course looks creates the 1st meet but for long term is has to be personality."

 

[gav]

Life and the ability to enjoy it.

I agree, definitely an attractive quality.

 

[overit]

Boobs! Thats a good place to start!

Works for me! Sorry if you were after something deep and meaningful!

Example!

 

[gav]

Boobs! Thats a good place to start!

Works for me! Sorry if you were after something deep and meaningful!

Example!

LOL! Definitely no need to apologise

 

[darnsmall]

What makes somebody "attractive"?

The topic: "Why do models marry old ugly millionaires?" got me thinking...
Why are we so judgmental when it comes to attractiveness?

I used to get called "shallow" quite often because I only dated physically attractive women. My other males I knew would be in relationships with people who would not be as good looking (but not ugly), who would be "smart with a good personality", or so they told me. Yet these same guys read FHM/Ralph/Zoo, will stop and stare for a looong time when a good looking woman walks by (long enough to make them feel uncomfortable), and often go to the strippers. But I'm the shallow one, yet I did none of these things...

1. What makes a person "attractive"?
2. Can you be more attracted to a person simply because they have more wealth/power or are of celebrity status?
3. Who are we to judge what someone finds attractive?
4. Is there a list of criteria you must meet to marry someone?
5. What are YOU attracted to?

1. What makes a person "attractive"?
Is it their looks, personality, selflessness, success, charm, power, money, celebrity status? How can somebody be attracted to materialistic items like money?

2. Can you be more attracted to a person simply because they have more wealth/power or are of celebrity status?
Do some qualities make up for others? If you are famous or wealthy, then its OK that you aren't as good looking? If you are a really nice person, then is it OK that you aren't successful? (and visa versa)

3. Who are we to judge what someone finds attractive?
If you wrote out a list of the things you wanted in your ideal partner and you write "smart/intelligent", it is seen as being OK. Yet if you write "good looking" (whatever your own definition of that is), you are seen as being shallow.

We all have the ability to learn and expand our knowledge - no matter how smart or dumb we are. But not everyone can be a brain surgeon. Just as we all have the ability to improve our physical appearance - whether it be by diet/exercise, or by the way we present ourselves. But not everyone can look like Brad Pitt or Scarlett Johansson. Is being in a relationship with someone who is smart more important than being with someone who is good looking? Why is this? No one is perfect, but we all have the ability to improve on both aspects.

4. Is there a list of criteria you must meet to marry someone?
Are there any laws, as to a criteria we must fit or abide by to marry someone? If so, then can someone be charged with fraud if you can prove they married then divorced for money? If there are no laws, why not? Furthermore, if there are no laws, then why is it viewed by public as a negative thing when someone marries for money or other motives?

5. What are YOU attracted to?

5.
She has to be under 55kgs
great personality
No love handles
great face
great ****
great body
great dress sense
not succumb to stupid sheep style fashions eg, 80's revival, roman sandles, wearing sacks,
respects and cares about herself

 

[Naked shorts]

Petite girls who don't listen to f**king hiphop.

 

[xyzedarteerf]

Here's what's attractive to me.

1. Intelligence

2. Personality

3. Sense of Humor

4. Plays Games

5. Cares for the Environment

 

[gav]

OK I'll attempt to answer/give my opinion on a few of the other questions:

2. Can you be more attracted to a person simply because they have more wealth/power or are of celebrity status?
To me, being famous, having wealth/power would mean absolutely nothing when considering how "attractive" someone is. Some of these things can really be a benefit eg. if your partner is wealthy it may make life easier for you. But some of these things can be a hindrance too. They mean absolutely nothing to me, but may mean something to someone else...

3. Who are we to judge what someone finds attractive?
I am guilty of this on the other thread. I cant comprehend that Kristy Hinze would be physically attracted to Jim Clark, but that does not necessarily mean she isn't. I think Kristy is gorgeous, but the fact she spends $53,000 on "weekly expenses" makes her very unattractive in my eyes.

4. Is there a list of criteria you must meet to marry someone?
I have no idea if there are any laws in place as to meeting any criteria before marriage. But if there are, and you can prove that someone married and then divorced for money or other ulterior motives (tough job proving that though), then they should be charged with fraud. If there are no such laws, then why is it morally frowned upon by the general community when someone marries for reasons other than love?

5. What are YOU attracted to?
Some of the responses to this question have been funny so far, but here's mine:
- There has to be a physical attraction: being healthy and fit is important to me, and takes up a very large portion of my life. I am attracted to people who care about their health and fitness too. Physically, generally I'm attracted to petite, toned women.
- I don't really care how smart someone is, as long as I can have interesting conversations with them
- Personality: I find I am attracted to people who are sweet, modest and care about others. But does not care too much about materialistic items (eg. clothes), and would prefer to go to dinner and a movie rather than out partying/drinking.
- Their job or financial position is of no concern. As long as they enjoy their work, or are working to find something they do enjoy.
- Understands how important bodybuilding is to me and is supportive.

It may sound stupid, but a few yrs ago after a bad relationship I decided I would remain single unless I could met someone who met all the qualities I mentioned above. I thought there was absolutely no chance of it happening, and was quite content to spend the rest of my days single (rather funny considering my age!). However 2yrs ago I did meet someone who met all the criteria above. I guess I'm just very lucky!

 

[Joe Blow]

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[Gundini]

yep, I'm good with that, but I'm better with this:

 

[Calliope]

charm

It is not easy to define. J.M.Barrie had a go;

It's a sort of bloom on a woman. If you have it you don't need to have anything else; and if you don't have it, it doesn't matter what else you have.

A woman with charm can get anything she wants. I also applies with men.

 

[prawn_86]

Just talking about physically, for me, height is a big factor. If you had 2 women that looked similar in the face/body etc i would go for the taller one every time.

 

[Sir Osisofliver]

What makes somebody "attractive"?

The topic: "Why do models marry old ugly millionaires?" got me thinking...
Why are we so judgmental when it comes to attractiveness?

I used to get called "shallow" quite often because I only dated physically attractive women. My other males I knew would be in relationships with people who would not be as good looking (but not ugly), who would be "smart with a good personality", or so they told me. Yet these same guys read FHM/Ralph/Zoo, will stop and stare for a looong time when a good looking woman walks by (long enough to make them feel uncomfortable), and often go to the strippers. But I'm the shallow one, yet I did none of these things...

1. What makes a person "attractive"?
I need someone who has a lot of similar characteristics and interests as myself.

2. Can you be more attracted to a person simply because they have more wealth/power or are of celebrity status?
Perhaps... I'm sure that if Scarlet Johansen and I were dating I'd be saying to my mates. "Guess who I'm.

3. Who are we to judge what someone finds attractive?
We shouldn't...ever.

4. Is there a list of criteria you must meet to marry someone?
I think if you have to tick off a list of characteristics for some preconceived notion of "rightness" you shouldn't get hitched. "Being the One is like being in Love, you either know it, or you don't, balls to bone"

5. What are YOU attracted to?
A pulse

 

[Sean K]

Amongst the other obvious things, confidence.

 

[MrBurns]

ok i generally look for these 5 qualities...

1) intelligent - ie someone thats remotely as smart as me (hard to find in northern beaches)
2) pretty face
3) funny ie watches superbad, southpark, pineapple express etc
4) great ass
5) roots well

not encessarily in that order

Roots well ???????? As men do most of the work you would be responsible for any bad rooting

 

[Stormin_Norman]

How economics can get you a date : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JpU9XrQqYzc

 

[MrBurns]

My father once said good looks come from the inside.

A good looking person who is really dumb or has a really bad personality is not attractive, a good looking person who is quick, clever and bubbly is gorgeous.

I dont find Elle Mc Pherson attractive but her sister is really nice.

Geez the more I go on the less i think I know about this but an old friend of mine who had teeth like Freddy Mercury, he could eat an apple through a picket fence once said ,"no matter what you look like there's always someone who digs ya"
His girlfriend was a stunner.