If I find myself in a situation similar to this, I try to determine as best I can what I contributed to the situation, and what the other person contributed. I don't think a situation has ever occurred to me where I didn't add something to the mix, even if it was something as (seemingly) innocuous as an attitude of sorts. I find if all attitudes are dropped, it's virtually impossible for situations to arise, even if the other person is ready to explode. And by saying this I don't condone her hurting you physically.
All manner of 'stuff' is happening between two people when they meet. There's actions and speech, body language, facial expression and tone of voice. And then the
invisible stuff which is far more powerful than anything else. The mixing and interacting of this 'invisible stuff' creates the feeling tone of a relationship, whether it's a romantic one or professional or passing relationship. Everyone has experienced this. Whether it's acknowledged consciously or not is another matter.
Any attitude can get you into trouble. It might be a fearful attitude, resentful, judgmental, suspicious, envious. It might be something you're aware of, or totally unconscious of. But you tend to attract those people who validate the attitude, if you catch my drift. If I'm afraid of Collingwood supporters, then next time I go to the footy I'm a very good chance of sitting next to the most obnoxious of all of them. Getting up and moving away won't help the situation for long, because I take my attitude with me. However if I stay seated and drop my attitude, suddenly she becomes much less vocal. (warning: advanced manoeuver
).
Respect breasts, I say. Would make a good bumper sticker.