Personal antipathy/dislike

[Logique]

Ahha a soul sista!..

He he. With sisterhood - I lack some of the essential pre-requisites. Although past tense, there have been some bad habits, however like Bill Clinton I didn't inhale.
Hippy? - cuff me now. But society's to blame.

 

[Wysiwyg]

Wysiwyg is a known troll

Not only am I a known troll, I am the best troll in town.

But really, I haven't met many good judges.

 

[Gringotts Bank]

If I find myself in a situation similar to this, I try to determine as best I can what I contributed to the situation, and what the other person contributed. I don't think a situation has ever occurred to me where I didn't add something to the mix, even if it was something as (seemingly) innocuous as an attitude of sorts. I find if all attitudes are dropped, it's virtually impossible for situations to arise, even if the other person is ready to explode. And by saying this I don't condone her hurting you physically.

All manner of 'stuff' is happening between two people when they meet. There's actions and speech, body language, facial expression and tone of voice. And then the invisible stuff which is far more powerful than anything else. The mixing and interacting of this 'invisible stuff' creates the feeling tone of a relationship, whether it's a romantic one or professional or passing relationship. Everyone has experienced this. Whether it's acknowledged consciously or not is another matter.

Any attitude can get you into trouble. It might be a fearful attitude, resentful, judgmental, suspicious, envious. It might be something you're aware of, or totally unconscious of. But you tend to attract those people who validate the attitude, if you catch my drift. If I'm afraid of Collingwood supporters, then next time I go to the footy I'm a very good chance of sitting next to the most obnoxious of all of them. Getting up and moving away won't help the situation for long, because I take my attitude with me. However if I stay seated and drop my attitude, suddenly she becomes much less vocal. (warning: advanced manoeuver ).

Respect breasts, I say. Would make a good bumper sticker.

 

[Julia]

GB, your observations are entirely reasonable and I agree.

In the instance I've described, however, you also need to consider the 'balance of power', i.e. the radiographer can do what she wishes with me physically, and in the process increase my psychological discomfort.

It is simply not a situation where the power is equally held.

 

[Tink]

I agree with Sails, not very good customer service and very unprofessional Julia.

I wonder if she has had any other complaints.

 

[awg]

my wife has an excellent 6th sense when it comes to determining undesirables

(although her radar might have been off when she met me )

I have learned to pay very close attention to her opinion on this

the fact she is a practising psychologist may have something to do with this


With regard to medical professionals, I find many little short of sadistic

I account this to a few factors..if you are a sadist, medical-type jobs are the way to go (like pedophiles are attracted to teaching)..and if you are having a bad day at work, everyperson takes out their frustration on their work item.

Finally, as they see much suffering, they are not very sympathetic to what they percieve to be minor suffering or god forbid, malingering.