Whiskers
It's a small world
- Joined
- 21 August 2007
- Posts
- 3,266
- Reactions
- 1
NB- I don't think it is appropriate to make assumptions, and publish them in this way, on people's personality based on what they write on a forum. With your training in conflict resolution, you should know that you can't make a full assessment in this way.
I'm glad you mentioned conflict resolution, sprinter.
"...you should know that you can't make a full assessment in this way" examplifies what I am trying to express to you. You have tendency to view and an inclination to impatiently want to get to the end result. Hence your unwillingness to engage in dialogue and work through details.
If you claim the right to make statements of fact about fluoride and insist that minorities should essentially shut up and do as they are told, you are fair game to identify your behavioural style and assess your motivations.
It is noted that you tend to prefer debate to try to browbeat your opinion of fluoride across as opposed to dialogue which is necessary for conflict resolution.
You might be surprised.I'm not going to take the bait on the other stuff, as it doesn't relate to the topic at hand.
Debate is oppositional. Winning is the goal.
Dialogue is collaborative. Finding common ground is the goal.
As for my style of inquisition... the first rule of conflict resolution is to control loud and domineering people so they don't control the floor to impose their will. How that is achieved is a matter of individual assessement.
At this stage it is probably approperiate to lay down the rules of the problem solving approach to conflict resolution. (I didn't make up these rules. They are pretty standard counselling criteria)
- Acknowledge there is a conflict.
- Identify and acknowledge each partys concerns and goals.
- Identify alternative solutions and their consequences for each party.
- Select the alternative that best meets the needs, concerns and goals of each party.
- Implementing the alternative selected and evaluate the results.
If you would like to play by the rules we can get down to the business of finding a solution to the fluoride issue.