Winners vs. Losers

When a winner makes a mistake they say "I was wrong," when a loser makes a mistake they say "It wasn't my fault."

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A winner learns from their mistakes, a loser learns not to make mistakes by not trying anything different.

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A winner in the end gives more than they take, a loser believes that winning means taking more than you give.

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The winner always sees an answer in every problem, the loser sees a problem for every answer.

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Winners choose what they say, losers say what they choose.

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Winners use hard arguments but soft words, losers use soft arguments but hard words.

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Winners stand firm on values but compromise on petty things, losers stand firm on petty things but compromise on values.

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Winners make it happen, losers let it happen.

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white_crane said:

Basically, a person with an internal locus of control will work harder (than a person with an external locus of control) to obtain a goal if they believe that the outcome is within their control.

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white_crane said:

With respect to quote 1:
There is a social learning theory, locus of control, which refers to whether a person believes that the consequences of their actions are controlled by internal, person variables or by external, environmental variables. Hence, one can have an internal or external locus of control. Basically, a person with an internal locus of control will work harder (than a person with an external locus of control) to obtain a goal if they believe that the outcome is within their control.

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Julia said:

Do you believe this locus of control can be changed from external to internal?
Isn't this largely the purpose of behaviour modification therapy?
I'd suggest that belief systems can be changed.

We all know those people who say stuff like:
"I can't help it. I've always done it that way".
i.e. complete capitulation to laid down habits.

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