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What makes somebody "attractive"?
The topic: "Why do models marry old ugly millionaires?" got me thinking...
Why are we so judgmental when it comes to attractiveness?
I used to get called "shallow" quite often because I only dated physically attractive women. My other males I knew would be in relationships with people who would not be as good looking (but not ugly), who would be "smart with a good personality", or so they told me. Yet these same guys read FHM/Ralph/Zoo, will stop and stare for a looong time when a good looking woman walks by (long enough to make them feel uncomfortable), and often go to the strippers. But I'm the shallow one, yet I did none of these things...
1. What makes a person "attractive"?
2. Can you be more attracted to a person simply because they have more wealth/power or are of celebrity status?
3. Who are we to judge what someone finds attractive?
4. Is there a list of criteria you must meet to marry someone?
5. What are YOU attracted to?
1. What makes a person "attractive"?
Is it their looks, personality, selflessness, success, charm, power, money, celebrity status? How can somebody be attracted to materialistic items like money?
2. Can you be more attracted to a person simply because they have more wealth/power or are of celebrity status?
Do some qualities make up for others? If you are famous or wealthy, then its OK that you aren't as good looking? If you are a really nice person, then is it OK that you aren't successful? (and visa versa)
3. Who are we to judge what someone finds attractive?
If you wrote out a list of the things you wanted in your ideal partner and you write "smart/intelligent", it is seen as being OK. Yet if you write "good looking" (whatever your own definition of that is), you are seen as being shallow.
We all have the ability to learn and expand our knowledge - no matter how smart or dumb we are. But not everyone can be a brain surgeon. Just as we all have the ability to improve our physical appearance - whether it be by diet/exercise, or by the way we present ourselves. But not everyone can look like Brad Pitt or Scarlett Johansson. Is being in a relationship with someone who is smart more important than being with someone who is good looking? Why is this? No one is perfect, but we all have the ability to improve on both aspects.
4. Is there a list of criteria you must meet to marry someone?
Are there any laws, as to a criteria we must fit or abide by to marry someone? If so, then can someone be charged with fraud if you can prove they married then divorced for money? If there are no laws, why not? Furthermore, if there are no laws, then why is it viewed by public as a negative thing when someone marries for money or other motives?
5. What are YOU attracted to?
The topic: "Why do models marry old ugly millionaires?" got me thinking...
Why are we so judgmental when it comes to attractiveness?
I used to get called "shallow" quite often because I only dated physically attractive women. My other males I knew would be in relationships with people who would not be as good looking (but not ugly), who would be "smart with a good personality", or so they told me. Yet these same guys read FHM/Ralph/Zoo, will stop and stare for a looong time when a good looking woman walks by (long enough to make them feel uncomfortable), and often go to the strippers. But I'm the shallow one, yet I did none of these things...
1. What makes a person "attractive"?
2. Can you be more attracted to a person simply because they have more wealth/power or are of celebrity status?
3. Who are we to judge what someone finds attractive?
4. Is there a list of criteria you must meet to marry someone?
5. What are YOU attracted to?
1. What makes a person "attractive"?
Is it their looks, personality, selflessness, success, charm, power, money, celebrity status? How can somebody be attracted to materialistic items like money?
2. Can you be more attracted to a person simply because they have more wealth/power or are of celebrity status?
Do some qualities make up for others? If you are famous or wealthy, then its OK that you aren't as good looking? If you are a really nice person, then is it OK that you aren't successful? (and visa versa)
3. Who are we to judge what someone finds attractive?
If you wrote out a list of the things you wanted in your ideal partner and you write "smart/intelligent", it is seen as being OK. Yet if you write "good looking" (whatever your own definition of that is), you are seen as being shallow.
We all have the ability to learn and expand our knowledge - no matter how smart or dumb we are. But not everyone can be a brain surgeon. Just as we all have the ability to improve our physical appearance - whether it be by diet/exercise, or by the way we present ourselves. But not everyone can look like Brad Pitt or Scarlett Johansson. Is being in a relationship with someone who is smart more important than being with someone who is good looking? Why is this? No one is perfect, but we all have the ability to improve on both aspects.
4. Is there a list of criteria you must meet to marry someone?
Are there any laws, as to a criteria we must fit or abide by to marry someone? If so, then can someone be charged with fraud if you can prove they married then divorced for money? If there are no laws, why not? Furthermore, if there are no laws, then why is it viewed by public as a negative thing when someone marries for money or other motives?
5. What are YOU attracted to?