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trainspotter

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I heard on the news this morning that the NRL is considering banning parents from all junior games after a 12 year old boy was attacked by one of the oppositions parents.

I have witnessed first hand some ugly incidents involving junior football as I umpire on the weekends. Abuse from the coach, parents, even the kids themselves on the field if they don't like a decision you have handed down. To my surprise even racial villification in an under 10's match from a lovely father who did not like the "treatment" his son was getting.

If this continues to escalate there will be no one left to umpire/coach/play the game. Junior sport is the loser.
 

In which state do you coach trainspotter?
I know they are having trouble finding umpires. Maybe you should"walk" from a game one day. There has always been a bit of grumbling but the umpire deserves the utmost respect.

The parents that attacked the 12 year old bot should be charged and sentenced properly. Unbelievable. Rugby is doing its best at present to become unpopular with mums.
 
It's not the only crime ugly parents are responsible for
 

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Western Australia mainly AFL. Have also done the soccer, basketball and tennis circuit. I have umpired/coached AFL for 5 years and am an accreditted AFL umpire/coach.

"Walking" from a game is not the answer. Keeping a cool head seems to really annoy them even more. Blow the whistle as you see it and flood the back line so the opposition cannot get near the goals is another effective trick. ALso running "blocks" in the forward line slows them down a bit too! No wait .... I wouldn't do that would i? I have the whistle so therefore I have the power !!
 
I have played soccer for decades, but started refereeing this year. Expected some crap from the adults, but I 've got a thick skin and if any one gives me any crap, the red card comes out.

But have been surprised by the lack of respect in kids games - have done some under 15 games and surprised how often I have to caution or send off players. And some of the managers for the kids teams are total dickheads - I guess this attitude comes through to the kids that they manage.
 
My wife absolutely detests other woman screaming out on the sideline at junior Rugby league games.

A lot of the dads at league games are ex-players, and seem more respectful.

At my youngest sons team, there are no less than 4 ex NRL players who are now fathers.

recently, an over the top parent who seemed affected by drugs became involved in a nasty slanging match with one of our mothers.

thing the guy didnt realise is the father was an office bearer of the Nomads

Luckily the Nomad, just glared at him...I praised him for his restraint.

There was also a bad incident at a local senior match were the female touchie was threatened to be raped, they got the guy on video

thats the key, I reckon

video them, name and shame them, and charge them with criminal offences

there is absolutely no place for that sort of behaviour.

I have never heard the ex-NRL dads ever barrack
 
Was playing rugby in Kalgoorlie a few years back - in the game after us the ref locked himself in the shed to escape from some players trying to rough him up.

It's not just the parents - some people are always going to be bad sports.
 
I observed on an early morning program that the powers that be (NRL I think) have decided to BAN the child involved in Ugly Parent Syndrome. Thus removing the problem. Hmmmmm ... I thought maybe a bit more education at registration time might have been a solution. When little Johhny joins club XYZ then the parents recieve literature in relation to good sportsmanship etc. Possibly get Mum & Dad to authorise a document agreeing to participate in keeping calm while the umpire makes the wrong decision?
 
Nice thoughts trainspotter but realistically if the parents are that bad I can't see them changing their behaiour with a bit of education.

At least their child will learn a lesson.
 

they already do this, it doesnt seem to be working

i reckon they should take a pic of the parents and if they are too ugly looking, just say "you are banned"
 
a few weeks ago there was this amazing screaming coming from the front of my place....one big fat mumma was doing road rage on a taxi driver.....geez...did she let fly with the language, swearing, etc.....oh and the traffic jams she created.....it was bedlam....the police came and took her away for awhile....
I would hate to see what she would do at a kids game....
boy did she go off......no holds barred...she sounded insane...to put it mildly
 
LMAO @ awg ... ugliness in appearance "probably" does not mean they will turn into tyrannical monsters when little Johhnny is flattened in the forward line from behind and I don't blow me whistle and award him a free kick. (If the kid is a sh!thead and gets poleaxed then I might call PLAY ON) Usually it is the higher socio economic people who make a bit of a fuss when NANA and POPPY turn up to watch little Johnny be a loser.

In 5 years of running onto the hallowed ground of "sport" I can honestly say there was this one guy with a tattoo of a scorpion on his neck and wearing the BOVVA clothes that he had a bit to say about his son getting a bit of rough treament behind play. I calmed him down and gave his kid a free kick to satisfy the end result. The "chosen one" immediatley kicked the ball into the man on the mark who promptly grabbed the ball and snapped a goal from 15 metres out from the posts.

OH DEAR !!
 
I haven't read all this thread, so apologise if this has come up before.

Heard a umpire on the radio today saying if he gets any of this ugly parent crap he simply sends the child off the field. Finish. Tough on the kid, at the time, but he reckoned the parents never did it again because they lose so much face in the kid's eyes.
 
Thanks Julia, nope it has not come up before. I believe the NRL are trying to introduce this law. Parents act up it is the kid who is disqualified from the game (including the parents) BANNED FOR LIFE apparently.

I have implemented this previously and it only seems to anger the parents even further (poor lost souls) Sending little Johnny off immediately means that Daddy can vent his spleen because his son IS THE WHOLE TEAM. I prefer to get the child in question and put him in the front line of attack. Ruck, mauls, bouncedowns, backline, wherever the most ball getters are and see how "Little Johnny" handles a little bit of pressure. The other kids on the field soon make him look silly.

Quietly at 1/4 time or halftime or whenever, I go over to the parent (or coach) and ask if their son has had enough of the front line. NOW this has backfired on me before because little bloody Johnny is a superstar and can kick 6 goals in a quarter and win the game off his own boot. Fair enough. The kid has talent. Compliment the parents on a job well done and then get the best kid on the opposing tem to "manup" on him to try and slow him down.

Usually works.
 
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