The lawyers won't be suggesting this to you as it could diminish their own financial rewards, but I'd suggest approaching your local Dispute Resolution Service. This is (well at least in Qld) a free service provided by the Justice Department and offers mediation between the two of you.
The process involves both of you sitting down with two mediators. It is a completely controlled process which in 98% of cases with two willing participants produces a satisfactory outcome.
Should be a listing in the phone book for Dispute Resolution Service, or alternatively approach your Court House for more information.
Don't forget the lawyers have no interest in achieving a quick and satisfactory outcome. Much better for them if it's all dragged on for ever.
Good luck.
Hope you can achieve a reasonable outcome without too much bitterness on either side. You once felt enough for each other to form a relationship.